How to deal with my annoying family?

tractordriver88
#1. July 20th, 2007, at 4:59 AM.

Carry a handgun with you everywhere.

Plan on moving out next year? Move out now!

noellezsassy
#2. July 21st, 2007, at 6:35 AM.

then don’t go. If you can don’t attend it. Why subject yourself to the percieved hell you talked about? If you don’t like your family … you can’t change them, but you can do 1 of 2 things..

1.) Don’t involve yourself with them and totally move out of their lives and you don’t need to move out to do this.. just don’t interact and if famlly is over leave the house..stay at a friends.. do whatever not to be there.

2.) accept your family for their goofy selves.. and just suck it up.

Skye
#3. July 23rd, 2007, at 4:01 AM.

the best thing to do is agree with them when they say like your hair looks stupid! Say thank you!! I kno!!! I do that with mine becuase they are the same way. Beleive they stop doing saying stuff about it when you do that.

funluvver
#4. July 26th, 2007, at 3:23 PM.

Be really pleasant. Kinda like a suck up and then sit everyone down and tell them just how much you hate it when they do that and maybe just a little bit more. And since all of them are so… rude i guess… try being the nice one. Maybe they’ll end up feeling bad for being such jerks.

benejueves
#5. July 29th, 2007, at 3:36 PM.

and since you know this about them , you are very in-tuned and smart to their ignorance. just think of how you ‘ve been handling it. probably with stupid answer back to them.
this time and until the moment you lave, you will just smile and say, “THANK YOU FOR NOTICING MY UNIQUE AND SPECIAL QUALITIES.”
that should shut them up and/or lessen their negative attitude towards you for a year.

Married Lady
#6. July 29th, 2007, at 7:01 PM.

So why wait a year and a half???? Move out now! You don’t like any of them, so why live like this? Don’t go to dinner they are just going to ruin it for you. I say MOVE now!!!

Gordita de Oro
#7. July 30th, 2007, at 10:21 AM.

ignore the rude comments eventually they will stop

Bunnyrabbit
#8. July 31st, 2007, at 11:09 PM.

keep to yourself….remind yourself that you’re going away soon

just me
#9. August 4th, 2007, at 6:47 AM.

Count the days until you can go, keep your cool. Even if it is tempting, don’t mouth off. If you do you just sink to their level. It is not always necessary to like your family. Remember you are with them because of birth you did not choose them. Hang in there and keep to yourself as much as possible. During the dinners keep comments to yourself it would do no good to say anything, they won’t listen. Remember how you have been treated and vow not to do the same to your children.

krakkatinni
#10. August 6th, 2007, at 1:57 AM.

You may be the odd one out in the household. What they are saying about you may be true & you just wont accept it. The questions they ask you may be logical but only you think they are stupid.

So you have all these complaints about them - yet are willing to sponge off them for another year & a half? That says a lot about you. It also says a lot about your family who are willing to allow you to stay with them - even though you say they are idiots.

You ask how to deal with your family - my advice is to start treating them as family, & not as idiots.

tell it like it is
#11. August 8th, 2007, at 8:02 AM.

Boy do I know where your coming from about “family”.

Dealing with children is a pain because most kids have zero respect for anything these days (special thanks to the parents, peers and the media). What I do is ignore kids who bother me, completely tune them out and don’t give them the time of day. Mean? Maybe. Effective? Yes.

Example: A few weeks ago my friend and I went bowling and this stupid little brat came up to us in the middle of our sit-down conversation and asks for money and said he’ll leave if we give him some. I just gave him a look out of the corner of my eye and pretended he didn’t exist. The only thing I said was “goodbye!” and that was that and he left (I gave the mother a bad look because she just sat there giving me the mean a** look like I did something to him).

Adult family members? Well mine happen to be control freaks, ignorant, act like they are “so proud to be of their nationality yet know nothing of the culture” type of people. Only my mother, grandmother and one of my aunts and distant cousins I really like. The rest are idiots who like to criticize everybody else yet they didn’t do anything with their lives that make them special. (Boy I can write a book about them and go on lol). Just try to handle it by asking THEM questions. Talk about YOUR accomplishments and achievements and act like your the sh*t. Trust me, I know it sounds rude and snobby but it works and puts them in their place.

In other words, walk in there and act like your the star. Pride yourself openly about what makes you proud and your style. Brag about it even. Believe me it works

gemenisthesign
#12. August 11th, 2007, at 2:21 PM.

Ignore them as much as possible and find things to do outside the house to make the time pass by easier thats what I did this works trust me . also tell them honestly I am in a good mood and please don’t ruin it with negativity it worse too.

doglover
#13. August 13th, 2007, at 10:38 AM.

If all the above suggestions don’t work I just saw an ad for a ladies pink taser gun you might like to buy yourself for Christmas. Wouldn’t that be an electrifying dinner?
Now don’t be a thumb downie, I’m just joking!
Seriously, your best bet is to buy yourself a good book and sit in a corner, or your bedroom and keep reading. When people confront you just say that you are doing your reading for your English homework and there is going to be a huge test the first day back on school and you’ve really got to get this done. Or you could hide in the bathroom. Good luck! Just try not to engage in any conversation.

berry
#14. August 15th, 2007, at 8:03 PM.

I have similar family members. The only way is to avoid them and moving out is the best way. As for me, I got married and moved far away.

thunor
#15. August 16th, 2007, at 5:54 AM.

Skye has said what I am going to:
Agree with them. It takes the wind out of their sails. Either that or, put a smile on your face the next dumb thing that is said o you about anything about yourself and say, “Don’t go geting jealous now.” And just walk away.
To ignore silly commments etc. is half he battle won.
To fully ignore them is no prblem at all. People are going to say what they want, be they family or not. But that doesn’t mean you are obligated to entertain them. And I also think that they don’t want to see you growing up and becoming an adult.

GhostHunterB
#16. August 18th, 2007, at 7:22 AM.

ugggh…family dinners. I know the feeling. Just be proud of yourself! Be you and if they don’t like it, tough. One great way to get them to knock it off is to reply to any negative comment with “Yeah, but you love me anyway, right?” and laugh. Say it nicely and look them in the eye the entire time. Anytime I have ever said this, they were usually the first to look down and from there on out treated me with respect…they know that to admit love for a family member is conditional would make them look like an ass in front of all. good luck, hon, and blessed be!