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lidakamo
#2.
October 13th, 2007, at 12:33 AM.
it’s very hard to have a relationship when mommy is under the same roof. what i would suggest you do is move out, and that way when you, and your man want to spend time together you can, under your own roof. if he does not break free from mom after about 3 months, i would say that you will have to let him go because obviously there is no room in his life for 2 women, and he has chosen who he wants to be with. sorry.
gabriela
#3.
October 16th, 2007, at 9:07 AM.
MOVE OUT! it will only get worse if you stick around to take more abuse. you and your fiancee need to get a place on your own. she won’t jump in any lake! she tries to stay in control of the last of her children, sees that she is failing and now resorts to passive-aggressive manipulation. move out! take your fiancee with you as soon as you two can afford it. good luck!
missingora
#4.
October 16th, 2007, at 10:01 AM.
It’s awfully hard to unscramble eggs. The mistake was when you moved in with her. (I assume the home is hers since she’s threatening to sell everything if you move). She may be having a problem adjusting to both widowhood and the idea of her son leaving home. You and your fiance will get off to a rocky start if you don’t have space of your own. However, having said that, you’ll have a rocky relationship if you don’t find a way to be on good terms with HIS MOTHER. He may think she’s difficult but he isn’t going to want to hear it from you. Where a future mother-in-law is concerned, walk very very softly!!
Tracylyn S
#5.
October 17th, 2007, at 9:34 PM.
You need to take control away from the N-Law. She is a marter who uses guilt to get her way. I would move out and start saving for your own place. If she threatens to jump in a lake, ask her if she would need a ride to get there. LOL
I had an N-Law like this, You have to be rude and assertive to gain the control in your relationship. If you BF will not comply to assist you in this, then you may want to rethink if you really wanna Mama’s boy for a husband or a man who will cleave to you and not mom/
Tracylyn S
SZ
#6.
October 21st, 2007, at 7:05 AM.
you should go on dr phil!! he rules at helping in these types of situations.
buggsnme2
#7.
October 22nd, 2007, at 2:13 AM.
get out of the relationship now, while it won’t involve a divorce, because that is where your marriage is headed. Your fiance is a mama’s boy, and there is nothing good in that. He should want to be a man, and have his time for the two of you. Since he has other siblings, there are obviously other places she could go, but your guy isn’t really forcing the issue.
Pack your things and move on - you will be so very glad you did
deepndswamps
#8.
October 24th, 2007, at 9:29 AM.
Let’s see been engaged for 14 months and have been together for 3 years. I don’t mean to be rude, but, why don’t you have your own place already? Does you fiance work?
That being said, he has siblings, let them share the responsibility of looking after their mother.
But, it does not look good for your future. If he hasn’t cut the umbilical cord yet, he probably won’t any time soon.
Kat G
#9.
October 25th, 2007, at 8:11 PM.
Let me get this straight you live with her. You are engaged to a guy who lives with his mother and can not afford a place of his own. You have more then mother in law problems. Think you should move out and you and your fiance should support yourselves instead of mooching off of his mother and then having the nerve to bad mouth her.
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#1. October 10th, 2007, at 5:32 AM.
You should not have to put up with anything
You didnt say old you and your fiancee are?
It seems like his mom is having a hard time letting go…… and guilt trips are as bad as one lets them be…..
She need to be gently yet firmly told that he loves her….
I am assuming he does ….
And that if she still wants to be in his life then she needs to back off some…
and he needs to talk to her not you…..maybe later you all could sit down together but right now he needs to have a heart to heart with her
Having a son who will be 18 soon I know the emotional pain a mom feels letting go and seeing her “boy” become a man….. But as a man I expect him to be one and as his mom I will let go….