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Robin b
#2.
September 11th, 2007, at 3:17 AM.
ignor her! my mother in law thinks she knows ever thing too… i chose to brest feed my daughter and she tells me all the time that i am “distroying” her. all you need to know is nothing wrong with your baby and you are doing every thing you can to care for your child. be the best mother you can be and let her toot her own horn. she raised her kids her way and you rais yours your way! i am shur you will be a grate mom with out her input!
deceptions
#3.
September 13th, 2007, at 5:48 PM.
well i never met my bfs mom because she died… but my grandmother is like that and thinks she knows the answer to everything and thinks she is always right and you can just never joke or anything around her because she always has some really mean and rude opinion, i think its just when women start getting older… just stop telling her anything, if she asks just be really discreet and tell her everything is fine, and maybe she’ll take a hint… but as far as trying to open up to her, if she makes you feel bad, then try to not let her into your business as less as possible. hope everything is okay!!!!
Jennifer H
#4.
September 17th, 2007, at 3:01 AM.
My MIL does drive me crazy sometimes she is negative, she ALWAYS has to be right though, and it kills me.And my hormones are messed up anyway and she just makes it worse, she has gotten onmy nerves bad lately.
Mom of two boys
#5.
September 19th, 2007, at 8:24 PM.
Tell your mother in law that if she doesn’t be more supportive of you that she could cause you & your baby (her grandchild) harm because of her negativity. Let her know that if she isn’t going to be supportive, you don’t want her around you during your pregnancy. This may hurt her & may make your husband upset but in the long run it will help b/c she will be more careful about being negative.
*Bumble Bear*
#6.
September 20th, 2007, at 3:37 AM.
Ignore her words,she is just trying to scare u and u dont need that right now..My mother in law is the same way,she can be sooo annoying and rude at times,i just ignore it though and not bother. Your baby is fine,dont let her get to you. Thats what she wants,she wants to be able to get under your skin…*thats why they are mother in laws*,they need a purpose. If i were u i would disregard her talk and go about your life,you and your baby im sure will do just great! Good Luck!!!
Tess192
#7.
September 21st, 2007, at 2:00 AM.
Stop telling her things. That’s the only way you will be able to avoid her rude comments on things. If she calls and ask you how things are going with the pregnancy then just tell her everything is fine. No need for unwanted stress, its bad for baby anyways. Just avoid the conversations with her all together on this topic. Good luck to you and Congrats on the baby.
andrea
#8.
September 21st, 2007, at 4:55 AM.
your gonna have to let whatever she says goes over your head if she is so negative shes gonna do your head in don’t take what she says to heart x
Dinealle
#9.
September 24th, 2007, at 12:29 AM.
Don’t get me started …… lol
Don’t let anything she says affect you, and if it gets too much, tell your husband to tell his mother to refrain from making unwanted comments, otherwise, you may be forced to tell her yourself and it may not come out very nicely.
Just listen to what the doctor says and look after yourself. Congratulations!! All the best and God Bless you and your little family.
Nifermom2_2
#10.
September 25th, 2007, at 4:48 PM.
Your best bet is to establish a relationship with her that is on a if I dont ask dont tell kind of basis. My mother-in-law and I had so many problems and then briefly we had to move in with them and it only got worse.
You need to just tell her that you respect her opinion and insight but that you would appreciate her to keep negative things to herself. And that you would like it if she told you if there was something that you should keep to yourself. Once we talked this out we were able to become very close and as soon as she starts to say something I dont want to hear I say sorry or give her the look and thats the end of it.
They just want to feel like they are needed. So occasionally you need to go to her and say I have a question, ask the question and she will feel kind of at ease that she could do something for you. Or help you in a way. Ecspecially if she has no girls. Its just a bond she wants to have with you.
But I recommend you do it soon because it will only get worse as time goes on.
trippinwurmz
#11.
September 29th, 2007, at 3:43 AM.
not my mother in law… she is my savior but my MOTHER. Just let it go in one ear and out the other. My mom was continually critiquing me as I was pregnant about weight gain, what I should and shouldn’t eat, where I could go, my doctor the list goes on and on. I was almost to the point where I refused to talk to her at all. Just tell her the doctors are taking extra precautions for your sake to make sure you stay safe during the pregnancy so that no harm will come to HER grandchild. If she starts going on and on, just walk out. Tell her as much as she absolutely has to know, and leave out details that she can build on. IF worse comes to worse, then tell her that the undue stress she is causing you isn’t good for you or your developing child and you think it is best if you don’t talk until you are ready after the baby is born. (believe me she isn’t gonna want to miss out and she will back off sooner or later!) I will warn you though… NOW is the time to set rules up for her in regards to you and your family’s life. If you allow her to continually criticize you, it will become a nightmare once your child is born, because then she will begin to tell you that you are a bad parent and should be doing things the way she did. Put her in her place and hold your guns… she will stop eventually! Good luck to ya and congrats on the new addition!
Angie K
#12.
September 29th, 2007, at 11:18 PM.
Ignore her you know your baby is fine. Just pretend to listen, nod your head and agree with her thats how i deal with my mother in law to be. Good luck
laylallu
#13.
September 30th, 2007, at 2:32 PM.
Stick up for yourself girl, don’t let her think she can mow you over with words. It’s a power trip. I just don’t talk about it w/ my mom-inlaw. She asked why and I told her it’s b/c I will not listen to negative comments about my pregnancy. She has learned she has to say nice things about the pregnancy if she wants to know anything at all.
Good luck and God bless!
Stephanie M
#14.
October 4th, 2007, at 2:04 AM.
My Mom is just like that.
My suggestion is to sit down with her and tell her that if she can’t be positive and supportive that you will no longer share information with her. You want to be excited over having your first child. Then STICK TO YOUR GUNS! Believe me, people will not change until they have a reason to and not getting all the details about her new grandchild will just drive her nuts, but may afford you some real change. Cue your hubby into it as well.
People who are negative like that have mental issues. You can’t ever get them into counseling. They think you just aren’t realistic. Whatever.
Congratulations on your baby-to-be!! A scheduled c-section will do a lot to alleviate concerns over the skull problems! While surgery is a scary thing, you can do a lot to make this go smoothly.
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#1. September 8th, 2007, at 1:40 AM.
There’s nothing wrong with the baby. The doctors told you so. I would believe them over your nosy mother-in-law!
Try to let what she says roll of your shoulders. I had a couple people like that (I’m 31 weeks) and I just refuse to discuss my pregnancy with them because of their comments. Some people just love to rain on other people’s parades!