Annoying mother in law question?

jwb674
#1. January 13th, 2007, at 3:12 PM.

When she sends brownies to your house, send double fudge brownies to hers. If she sends chocolate cake to yours, send double fudge chocolate with mousse to hers. Eventually she will stop.

muthafaka8o8
#2. January 13th, 2007, at 5:32 PM.

why dont u just give the brownies away to a friend or to ur husband. or the next time she brings it over just tell her thanks but no thanks because u are dieting

Texas_at_its_best
#3. January 15th, 2007, at 1:45 PM.

Maybe she is sending it for her son to eat. I would sit her down and tell her how you feel and about your diet and not wanting any distractions in the way. Or have your husband do it for you. It might be better for him to do it.

The Ejacolantern L
#4. January 15th, 2007, at 4:01 PM.

just throw it all in the trash

55 and trying
#5. January 18th, 2007, at 7:01 PM.

I just bring the junk food from something like that to the shop and share it. My co workers like it and it isn’t at home to tempt me.

free_angel
#6. January 19th, 2007, at 4:03 AM.

Thank her for the food then do with it want you want.

curious
#7. January 22nd, 2007, at 10:49 AM.

Have your husband explain to her that you two agreed that you do not want junk food in the house cuz you’re trying to eat healthy. He should tell her you two apprieciate her cooking, but if she wants to make you something, she could make you a main course of something w/ fruits or veggies. Let him talk to her, if you do, she’ll get mad at & complain about you.

Been there done that
#8. January 24th, 2007, at 11:09 PM.

Mother in laws are fun, you need to lighten up and allow her to be your new mom. That is what she is there for. She may be trying to be what her mother in law wasn’t for her and trying to hard. She is loving you the way she wanted to be loved by her’s and wasn’t.

Do you have self control? Diets are ok but sometimes we go overboard. I don’t know you are skinny mini food control freak like me or if you struggle with being heavy. I have been both and right now I have gained self control. I can have brownies in my house and not over indulge. Just accept her gift of love and be at peace. She is just being a mom.

Vonnda
#9. January 26th, 2007, at 7:15 AM.

Just tell her “mom (or whatever you call her), if you keep bringing stuff like this for your son to eat, he;s going to have to go on this diet with me.” Also, Good Luck with your diet - stick with it .

billie
#10. January 29th, 2007, at 8:40 AM.

I think she is trying to be nice…older people often do not have the healthier diets of younger ones, so this is a way of showing love. It will be hard to change her. She is trying to redo things she did when her son was at home to show him her love.

It may also be the only way she feels she has an excuse to be more inclued in your and especially her son’s life. You may be attaching motives that she does not have to it.

If you think she feels when you lose weight you might leave her son, talk with her about how much you love him and how you would never leave him and how much you appreciate that he loves you fat or thin.

Thank her for rearing such a sensitive and wonderful man..do things to put her mind at ease and show affection to your husband in her presence. Do nothing to make her think you will leave him if you are thin like flirt with men.

I suggest a discussion on food and trying to educate her. bring her healthy treats..share recipes with her if she likes omehing you made. Ask her for recipes for healthy things hse cooks or how to cook x (a good food)..

Be extra nice for a while, giving the junk food to someone who likes and would appreciate it (putting a little aside for your husband if she asks him if he liked it).

After you have won her over a little to health foods and improved the relationship..tell her the food she cooks is so good that it is too tempting for you to have around. Tell her you and hubby are trying to eat better for your health and if she wants to continue to give you treats, can she make something healthy (make sure she understands what you think healthy is)…

when she does it, be sure to praise and compliment the food a lot..say nothing on the junk food complimentary. This is using positive reinforcement to get what you want her to do..be sure to thank her for being so considerate when she makes something healthy and acceptable..

(if your husband wants it, ask him to work out a way for your mom to giive it to him withoput it tempting you or be sure the junk food is covered and put somewhere where you don’t see it..don’t even look at it).

Maybe she feels it is her entry way, or even only entry way, into your lives and to being around you offering an excuse to come over..Mothers miss their sons terrible when they move out..

.If this is the case, be more understanding and invite her over more or to do things with your husband and/or you, so she doesn’t feel this is her only way to see you.

If all else fails, just accept that is how she is and rememeber there are people who have simply evil and cruel mothers-in-law…look to her good traits and learn to love her..after all, she worked hard to give you a good husband and deserves your respect and appreciation.

If you make the right moves today, one day she will sings your praisies if she is worth her salt. If she never does, then accept that you got a bad one and know others are in the same boat.

It is good you have so much will power. I am very into health foods, but brownies would be very tempting.